It is commonly believed that female cats are affectionate and friendly creatures who seek their owners’ approval, enjoy being petted and cuddled, and purr their way through quiet evenings spent at home. However, not all female cats are as friendly or as submissive as this one. Some female cats have their own agendas and appear unwilling to accept “no” as an answer to their questions.
These are what people call “alpha female cats.” They do not allow themselves to be led and make every effort to take control of whatever situation they are in. They are born leaders. These felines demand that their food be served to them exactly when and how they want it, or else they will not eat it. It’s possible that they’ll only let you touch them for brief intervals of time, and even then, only on their own terms. They defy reprimands and insist on having their way whenever they feel like it, demanding attention, access, and possessions. If you have an alpha female cat, he does not belong to you; rather, he believes that he does and acts accordingly.
When alpha female cats are unable to get their way, they resort to bullying and coercing others into taking immediate action. In the morning, they might bite your nose or toes to wake you up and get you out of bed. If they are persistent enough, they might scream at you until you give in to their demands for food. They may give a low growl if approached while they are eating, and some of them are very possessive of their toys and their time spent sleeping. Be very careful if you try to pick up or pet your alpha female cat when he is not in the mood for either of those activities. It’s possible that he’ll deliver his negative message to you in an unambiguous manner by biting or clawing at you.
Petting-induced aggression is one of the hallmarks of the alpha female cat syndrome, and it’s also one of the most common symptoms. Alphas are very affectionate and will jump up on your lap and let you pet them, but they will only do so for a limited amount of time. When they have had enough, their eyes become constricted, they cast a sidelong glance at the hand that is petting them, and their tail begins to wriggle in a wavy pattern. This is the writing on the wall that heralds an imminent meltdown: Suddenly he will swat, bite, and maybe roll onto his side so that he can attack you with all five sharp points at the same time. This is the writing on the wall that heralds an imminent meltdown.
What should one do? In essence, it is necessary to demonstrate to them who is in control, who is truly in charge, and who is the provider of everything that is desirable. When this happens, and only when this happens, their authoritativeness will be honed into acceptance and respect. “Nothing in Life is Free” is the title of the program that aims to modify participants’ behaviors. It is a non-confrontational leadership program based on the concept of “tough love,” in which the cat is expected to earn all of the owner’s valued possessions and resources. A minimum amount of training is required as a prerequisite in order for the cat to be able to be called upon to complete some task prior to being given particular resources.
How to deal with a dominant cat or an Alpha female cat
All of the drama and bossiness will eventually be replaced with respect if you are able to successfully demonstrate to a male or female alpha cat that it cannot gain access to desirable things unless you give it permission to do so. Here are some of the first steps you can take to assert your dominance:
- Create a list of the kinds of scenarios that invariably end in conflict, and then make it a point to steer clear of those kinds of encounters. For instance, if you have a cat that wakes you up in the morning by biting your feet to get you out of bed, you should keep other animals out of your bedroom at night.
- Always adhere strictly to the schedule you have established for feeding an alpha. Particularly not when they insist on having it!
- If the alpha cat is acting aggressively toward other cats, rather than responding with more aggression yourself, put the alpha cat in a separate room by himself for an hour.
- Make it a strict rule that you are only allowed to give this cat treats and toys when it is behaving exceptionally well (or if they have done something to earn it)